Friday, May 3, 2013

"But I'm not made to sit still!"



It's the first Friday of the month and that means it is Random Journal Day!  Grab one of your old journals, open a page and use it to inspire a blog post. If you want to read other RJD posts click on over to Beneath the Surface: Breath of Faith and link up with other bloggers.

Today I opened a journal that I kept for Rocker Son from the day we knew he was coming to make us a family of four. This entry was 7 years later as I pondered my 7 year old mystery boy........


December 7, 1993
In many ways (Rocker Son) is my mystery son. His thoughts do not tumble out all the time like (Writer Son) did at age 7. But his mind is very quick and always busy. He is often a step ahead of me in conversation, "If 3 cookies are OK, then 4 is probably Ok too, right?" 
Yesterday he listened as I told Hubs about how wiggly he had been in church that morning. Rocker Son's immediate contribution to the conversation was, "But I'm not MADE to sit still!!" He was totally serious and probably right. 

As I read the words in the little red, white and blue cloth covered journal, I was reminded of my last blog post here. I wrote about how we can be thankful for our own quirks and personality traits because our Creator designed us with intention and purpose, not accidentally. Accepting ourselves is a way of honoring what God made.


I wish I'd caught this lesson from my little dark-eyed kiddo back when he was 7 and seemed to "get" it pretty well. This charming young man is now a tall and handsome 26 year old who has always known who he was. At the age of 6 he knew what clothes or haircut were "right" for him and what was unacceptable to his high standards. I admire that strength today but did not appreciate it at all while shopping for school clothes back then!

I am still learning from this deep thinking and kind young man. I have always marveled at his ease and lack of fear when meeting new people. There just may be a link between his acceptance of himself and his open heart to strangers and new friends. The two go hand in hand, don't you think? When you are comfortable in your own skin, you can be more accepting and open to others around you.

When Rocker Son was seven, he knew that he was "not MADE to sit still". And if a serious motorcycle accident in 2011 that added a steel rod to his leg, is any indication, I think he knew what he was talking about!




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20 comments:

  1. Love this! When my now, 24-year-old, was that age, I used to say "You're going to be a wonderful adult because of your persistence and determination but it makes you a challenging child." I do admire his persistence now and know it will serve him well. (It was not, however, fun to deal with when he was 7 or 8.

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    1. Lori, I know exactly what you mean! Hubs used to remind me that someday our son's tenacity will be a good thing! We prayed that all the time. And it really did help him in his physical rehab after the accident and now he walks without any limp at all!

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  2. Hey, Susie - I love that you call them Writer and Rocker. Not sure I told you that before...but anyway- this post is beautiful and so reflective of the boy/man your son is. I sense him in this so well...I love that he can't sit still. Call me biased but boys were never made to sit still, He's right on. And I relate to that and always got on well with them because of that...sweet share. I wrote up a post and you need to read it when you have a sec. It might have a reference to you at the end. Ahem.

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    1. I loved your post and left my 2 cents of advice in the comments. Ha! Blessings on you sweet mama as you traverse this crazy growing into a grown-up season with your daughter. I get the feeling she is going to keep you on your toes. Which is perfect for a body-builder, right? Ha!

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    2. Correction: former bodybuilder! ;) - thanks, Susie! Your words were just the right blend of wisdom and humor.

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  3. Having three boys myself, and all of whom are unique and marvelous in their own right, I can totally understand how you felt with your "rocker son' who wasn't made to sit still! Oh well I remember when my boys were like that...and in some ways they still are. But you are correct in that his personality then helped to make him the type of person who is strong and secure today.
    This was so sweet. I wish I had written more when my boys were little. I think I was just too busy chasing after my boys who weren't made to sit still to even attempt writing about it. You are amazing!

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    1. We can see the future men in our little boys, can't we? You've given me a great idea for a mommy blog post I think!

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  4. Ouch! Insertion of steel rods into flesh and bone is NOT fun. Been there. Done that.

    Great post.

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    1. Yeah, it was not a fun time, so glad that he has healed up much better than the doctors predicted!

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  5. Such a nice post, Susie! It was great that Rocker Son came into his own so early, and was allowed to do so. Many times, being forced to do or be something we're not really does a number on us. You were a good parent to give enough freedom for growth.

    M.L. Swift, Writer

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    1. It was trial and error Michael, we blew it as many times as we succeeded. Sometimes it was our lack of action that turned out to be the right thing, much to our surprise! Ha! They are two very good men and that makes my heart very proud and happy!

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  6. There's a great book called Searching For Tom Saywer by Tim Wright that talks about how boys in general are not made to sit still. It was a small book and quick read but an incredible read for anyone wanting to keep boys and men involved in their ministry!

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    1. Sounds interesting Branalyn, wish I'd read it while raising boys and teaching children's church for years. Thanks for commenting!

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  7. WHat a lovely post. My boy is not much unlike ROcker and his brother like writer I bet. They are both individuals and letting them stay that way was difficult at times.

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    1. We are very proud of our men and thankful for the great women they have found.

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  8. I like his statement, I'm not made to sit still, and how good he recovered well from the serious accident. That is what makes a mom's heart go pitter patter.

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  9. You know, sometimes I feel like we're sisters of a different a different mother. I kept journals of each of my babies from the first moment I found out I was carrying them. I, too, learned so many things from them that I didn't pay attention at the time. The uniqueness of God's image in each has been astounding, and yet...I didn't always get that when I was busy 'training them.' Trying to make them conform to the same standards of behavior in the same way. It's too bad that the wisdom that new parents need doesn't come until they're no longer new parents. The good news is that babies are also new. And...that God's love and grace covers us.

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    1. Ha! So true! Maybe that's why people always say that being a grandparent is so wonderful. Have the wisdom to accept the grandkids as they are without trying to reform them into something else. Looking forward to the grandparent days.

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  10. He's right. Neither Bears nor small children are very comfortable sitting too still for too long. We're moving creatures.

    I'm glad you have learned that.

    Blessings and Bear hugs!
    Bears Noting
    Life in the Urban Forest (poetry)

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