Friday, July 26, 2013

Your Family is Your Legacy





To prevent seasickness I would suggest watching this video in the small version, not the full screen version. I walked from the back property line and almost to the front of my parents place, out of state, this past weekend. The home is on a thickly wooded mountain that is simply gorgeous. Behind the house is a forested area that my kids loved to play and sleep in when they were younger. The front of the house is a garden my mom designed and beyond the garden is another thickly wooded area before reaching a curvy road. (And yes, you did see a small doggy cemetery along the path.) Since my mom's passing 2 years ago, I think my Dad has done a great job of keeping the garden alive and healthy, even though it is practically a full-time job! Thanks Dad.


The trees are so tall that it can be very dark and kind of mystical feeling with lush green moss hanging from tree limbs and along the rough but level pathway. My mother loved moss. I remember watching her water the bricks on our back patio when we lived in my childhood home here in California, trying to produce moss. There are mossy forests in the sunshine state but not in our suburban backyard! 

The visit was in honor of a nephew's wedding. The wedding was beautiful and full of whimsey and fun. This visit was also my first time back to my parent's home since my mother passed away 2 years ago. I was dreading the void of her presence among her collectables and her garden, but it was actually kind of comforting and bittersweet, because her presence is still very much there among the oil paintings she did and ceramics she created.

The sadness of a missing person was overwhelmed by the joy of introducing a new person into the family. Our adorable daughter-in-law whom I call Sassy Bride on here, and the name still fits! :) She had never been to the house or met some of the family, so it was great fun to walk her through the property and hear my son's memories of childhood visits to Grandma and Grandpa's place. And Grandpa had a new person to tell his corny jokes to. He even had some new ones this time!
I am once again thankful for the family that surrounds my life. My brother and sister are two of my favorite people in the world. And their families are delightful and happy people. My sons were together on this trip for the first time in a long time. Listening to them talk, laugh and fill each other in on their lives was fascinating. I could eavesdrop on them for hours but made myself give them some alone time every once in a while. 

Families go through changes and must recalibrate to continue on in a new way. Learning to embrace every season without regret for the past and looking with hope into the future is an interesting process for a family. 

But it is worth the effort. I watched the marriage of my nephew and remembered his funny video skits he used to do with my sons when they were just goofy little guys. Now they are all big goofy guys and the world is better because of them. (It's definitely funnier!) Your family are the people who have known you from the beginning and will be there even beyond your lifetime. They are the legacy you leave the world.


PS - I began this post days ago but felt I need to be giving first priority to my paid jobs. Even now I have a Pet Blog due before the end of the day, but wanted to get this out there to you. Pamela, I know you wanted a good idea of the layout of the garden, so here it is. Actually an overhead shot from the house would have been the best but I didn't think of it at the time. This way you can walk through it with me! Blessings! Susie
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11 comments:

  1. What a fantastic Ode to your mom's "Secret Garden"! So many nooks for contemplation. Loves seeing this. Makes me miss our West Greenwich, RI home though...you are a blessing and blessed, Susie!

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    1. Hi Dawn, thanks. It does have many little comfy spots to brush the dirt away and read or visit. Morning coffee is especially good out there.

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  2. So sweet......what precious memories!!!

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  3. Your video was so evocative of our family's place on an island in Puget Sound (no mountain, but the paths through the woods, overhead canopy of trees, quiet corners to reflect) that I wanted to hop in the car instantly to go 'home' to it. OR find YOUR family home so I could sit in the shade and be in the silence there, then go back into the house and share in the rollicking joy of your family. You'd take me in, right? Even if I had to be a stalker to find you?

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    1. Well I wouldn't be there so you'd have to see if my dad would take you in and he's a pretty friendly guy so its all good!

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  4. Oh wow! I just got home and found this...and I am overwhelmed! First of all, the story is wonderful...so full of family life/blessings...all the stuff families are made of. Love it! The video...well...I am still a little woosy here from watching, but it was so worth the journey! I love all the garden "rooms", the arbors, trees, flowers, and inviting places to sit and rest a spell. That is the kind of environment I am trying to create here at our "camp in the woods" home...little by little. Not sure it will ever be the well planned garden setting your mother designed, but she had the same kind of vision that I am working toward. Thank you so much for sharing this walk about your family home with me. I wish I could be there to hear your memories of it in person...but the video view is enchanting. I agree with "jeskmom" above...I'd love " to sit in the shade and be in the silence there" as well, but it would be so much more fun if we could all be there together! Someday all of us bloggy friends need to have a retreat together...seriously!!!! Thank you, Susie. You made my day!

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    1. Pamela, I am so glad you enjoyed it. She was determined to create rooms and it took a ton of work from both of them and probably my brother also who lives about 30 minutes from them. It has a very retreat feel to it. We told Dad he could charge big bucks to have people come stay because after just one day we all felt like napping, it was so relaxing.

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  5. Family.
    They can drive you nuts but they are YOURS.
    I love family posts, we are all so different, all remarkably the same x

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    1. So true, all are different but also the same. I've decided that there really are very few truly dysfunctional families. Maybe severe alcoholics or abusers etc could be described as dysfunctional, but for the most part ALL of us have weird, odd and unique personalities and habits in our families.

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  6. Hi Susie! I just love my family, and how lovely that you are thankful for yours. Yes, there are horrible family situations, and we are truly blessed.

    Thanks for sharing your property too. It's gorgeous. I wish I could walk through it with you :)

    Happy Monday!
    Ceil

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