So I stretch and exercise enough to get my heart racing, I do not want to be a groaner or a deep sigher. I don't want to be seen as a martyr doing the house work who would rather find a spot to sit and just nest there all day. My mom was a big-time nest creator. She'd be surrounded by her planner, her water bottle, her books, magazines and phone. There were reasons for it, her legs hurt and she often suffered from bronchitis and other breathing problems. (But she wasn't a lazy lady. She gardened, socialized and was very creative with her hands.)
This is at the top of my mind just now because I am working around my home getting the spare room ready for Writer Son and Sassy Bride to come for a week-long visit. I am so excited and happy they are coming! We will have a full house once again and I look forward to the laughs ahead.
As I picked up a heavy basket full of CDs we never listen to, I kind of groaned and muttered
I know now that the groans and muttering she may have done during the clean-up time was full of happiness and expectation. I know now, that while the dust flew and the blankets were aired out, she was smiling inside and pushing herself to do a bit more as each day grew closer to our appearance. I know now that the cupboards were stocked with more cereal than usual and milk was purchased in the full size rather than the skinny container.
She worked hard to prepare for us and I am sure that Dad had a long "Honey Do" list as well. But today I realize that the hard work was a labor of love. That little 3-word phrase makes more sense to me today than it ever has..."labor of love". It is a joy, a gleeful busy-ness that helps the time pass and gets us closer to the fun!
In a few days our dining room table, which is usually just a catch-all for mail and library books, will be circled by my family. Rocker Son, Writer Son, Sassy Bride, Hubs and me, with Layla wandering from chair to chair....and I will look around and understand my mother's quiet glance at all of us laughing at a joke she did not get. I will not get half the inside jokes and weird movie references my kids make either, and that will be totally fine with me.
See PART 2 here.
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